When you really think about it, what does jealousy do for you? Does it consume you? Does it give you a purpose? Does it make you feel insecure? Is it fuel for you?
Jealousy is an all consuming emotion the moment it hits you. A primal emotion that engulfs you before you’ve even had time to register it. But what triggered it in the first place? And how can you become so confident that it just passes through you?
I have three points that help with navigating the mindset of jealousy and how to come out on top.
Point 1: Don‘t buy into a fantasy.
It might be an automatic response to look at someone else and think: they have it so easy. But is that true? Do you know their journey intimately? And if it was easy for them, how does that affect you, other than infecting your peace of mind?
The most simple way that jealousy is triggered is through insecurity. A lot of factors influence insecurity, but at base level, it’s not liking yourself in some way. When it comes to jealousy, it’s something someone has that you don’t. Maybe it’s about looks, personality, the attention they command, or life circumstances out of your control. Bottom line, you want something and they got it.
Let the notion of comparing yourself, roll off of you. Using jealousy as fuel can help you. Think: what is it that I’m not happy about that I want from this person?
Make what you’re feeling about you. Identify a goal and start taking the steps, or if it’s something that’s already consumed too much of you, pivot or let go. Life is about the journey and by the time you get to your destination, the jealousy you once felt could become a distant memory, a faded marker in the road of your progress. The main thing is to not get stuck in that jealousy. Redirect it outwards to propel yourself onwards.
Point 2: Live on your own timeline.
As with all things self-improvement, it’s a mindset. Jealousy is a mindset of wanting what you don’t have. But, if you have a strong belief in living your life on your terms, what others do won’t bother, deter, or influence you. It’s okay to stay in your own bubble, emerging from the cocoon when you feel ready/at peace.
And is hating someone’s success going to help you get to where you want faster? I doubt it. The only thing you can do in life is keep going and the only way to go forward is straight through. Don’t waste time pointlessly yearning to be where you’re not. Put that energy into building trust with yourself and making any kind of move towards something else. You don’t know what’s down the line for you, be flexible and believe that there’s more for yourself out there if you want it.
Now, instead of focusing on how jealousy extends outwards, what about when it comes towards you instead? Some people attract jealousy in the same way that others radiate it. How do you come out on top if people want what you have?
Point 3: Move in silence.
People have been killed over jealousy (not an exaggeration). Be self aware. Don’t attract moths to the flame (lead with your ego, broadcast your every move, let people into your space that shouldn’t be) and exit at the first hint of someone wishing for your downfall to feel better about themselves (degrading comments, constant comparisons, salivating at the chance to dim your light, not happy for you). This especially applies to people whose partners or friends are jealous of you. Safety is the number one priority. Nothing good can come from associating with someone that harbors a dark emotion towards you, no matter the kind of relationship, the energy vampire will make you come out worse in the end.
It’s not as much about not feeling jealousy as being able to work through it. Jealousy happens to us all and it’s the type of emotion that can warp realities. But instead of letting it drive how you are towards other people, use it to reflect and learn from yourself. What you wish for, what others want from you, what needs to be changed about your life, what’s destructive about it, and what’s the next step for you. Bounce back from it. Knowing more about yourself only makes you better.
These are my tips to remember when it comes to navigating one of our uglier emotions. One thing that makes a person confident is the ability to shut out the noise. The way to do this is by being present in your own reality. Don’t get lost in the shuffle of being someone else or made-up comparisons. Your truth will set you the most free.
Thank you for reading!!!!
Hot Girl Health 
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