Hot Girl Health

Hot Girls, do you know what it’s like to be wrapped up in vengeance?  The internal monologue of getting your just desserts from someone who has hurt you, even if it’s just the barest acknowledgement?  Some people are the type to just let things go by the wayside, out of sight, out of mind, everything zen and peachy keen in their world.  I wish that was me.  

My question: How do you deal with someone that has wronged you?

One of the reasons I don’t really let go of things, is because of my strong belief in having accountability when it comes to wronging someone (especially me), even if it’s just admitting to it.  Some people brainwash themselves into believing they are the ones being persecuted by you having feelings. Others think that forgiving them is an okay to take advantage again, which usually speaks to an underlying dynamic already established in the relationship, that you’ve now given the greenlight to return to.  But I don’t think that just because you let go, it’s an automatic given that you make up and forgive.  Depending on the severity of said wronging, anger is justified.  But the real point Hot Girls, is to let go of them in regards to you.  Let go of the idea of potential, anything that’s “escaped” you, and how you think your life could’ve/should’ve been if this person had treated you better.  

And there are good things about letting go.  Things that I’m still learning myself.  I’ve listed a few that I’ve come to on my personal journey.

Firstly, you’re no longer tying yourself to this person.  When you can’t let go of something someone did to you, you train your thoughts to them and keep them in your world.  The scenarios playing out the way you want, the things you didn’t say, the new revelations you’ve come to, it all revolves around their reaction to you.  It creates a neural highway straight to them and keeps the connection alive and open.  Don’t do this to yourself.  It’s like tying yourself to a rock, you can’t move or leave and by the time it changes, if ever, all of your time is wasted and over.  Cut the rope and be free.

Second, it’s an ego thing.  Most people have an ego about something.  And one of the ways for the ego to get activated is by being hurt.  Someone wounded your pride?  The ego will replay that over and over again, stuck in the cycle. “I’m going to show them.”  It’s a negative thing because it keeps you in that angry, victimized mindset.  You’ll become comfortable and complacent in it, and worst case scenario, that reality will take over.  Keep your ego in check, it can only serve you for so long before you’re ready to evolve.

Lastly, it’s better on the other side!  One thing that I’ve realized in relationships with people you’ve been hurt by, is that eventually you make your way out of the tunnel and into the light.  It might take days, months, years, but when you do get there, it’s like a fresh perspective on the world.  And that’s not a bad thing. Seeing new ways only gives you new pathways to go up.  Hot Girls, there’s always another way!

One thing I like about writing so much is that it’s like letting go of your thoughts.  You put your mind out there in a physical form and then let it go.  It’s cast off from your body into its own creation, free to live or die, but no longer your problem.  And that’s what I wish to do with all things that no longer need to orbit around me: move on to open up the space for new and better things to come.

Thank you for reading!